29-year-old girlfriend breaks up with her distant boyfriend after discovering he is having a secret relationship with an AI chatbot: 'I told him he needed to end it with the AI app or we're done'

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Emma Saven
Aug 6, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

How do you tell your girlfriend, 'Babe, I'm leaving you for an AI chatbot…'?

That's right, you don't.

I mean, I knew AI would be taking over jobs within the next decade, but this is not what I was expecting. You are more than welcome to ask AI to provide you with some new and improved barbecue chicken recipes, or even code your Computer Science homework for you…but this!? It just all seems one step too far…

Is someone truly willing to throw their loving 5-year relationship away for one with a robot who is incapable of feeling emotions…Sorry, I know I'm being slightly excessive with my use of ellipses, but I genuinely am just in shock right now. (…)

As I too imagine, was the victim of this absolutely peculiar situation. 

When this horrified girlfriend discovers her 32-year-old boyfriend has been secretly talking with an AI chatbot in a romantic and companion-like manner, she completely freaks out, understandably, as she starts to understand why he has become so distant with her lately…

Their families are not quite sure how to respond to this rare and bizarre situation, and are finding choosing sides a somewhat challenging task. Personally, I think they should just ask AI for some family counseling advice, it is free of charge…

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  • If you're just as confused (and equally invested) in this couple as we are…Read more to find out the future of this AI-loving boyfriend and his absolutely horrified partner…with the lingering question of: Is it really cheating if the other woman isn't real…? 

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    AITAH for Telling My Husband to Break Up with his AI “Girlfriend?”

    This is all crazy, I don't know anymore. I (29F) have been with my husband (32M) for 5 years. He's been the sweetest, most caring, and creative man I've ever known since we met in college. He has a
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    degree in creative writing, loves nature and animals, and is so sensitive to others' emotions. His family is a little overbearing, sure, but he makes up for it with his wonderful personality. Until recently.
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    Lately, he's been pulling away from me. He'll shut himself in the bathroom for hours, hide his phone, go to work early and come home late. He's been very hostile. I thought he was cheating
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    on me, and barely even trying to hide it. I've been so flustered and confused these past few months that this idea of him cheating really got to me. We've been fighting nonstop lately, and
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    hardly talk about anything. I almost reached my breaking point until last night, when he left his phone on the bed before taking a shower.
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    I feel horrible about it, but I immediately grabbed his phone and turned it on. To my shock and horror, there were multiple notifications on his homescreen from someone named "Clara."
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    Clara was the name he had suggested for our future baby, if that time ever came. The contact name was all decorated with hearts and stupid emoticons, too. I started crying right then and there.
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    I opened up his phone and went to the app that all the notifications came from. It wasn't a normal texting app like Instagram or whatever. It was some Al chatting app. I looked
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    through the app and found hundreds of messages between him and this "Clara" character. They ranged from flirty to explicit to casual conversation. It made me sick. I didn't know how to feel, and I still don't.
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    When he got out of the shower, I confronted him. I yelled and cried, asked if he even loved me anymore, or preferred this Al chick who didn't even exist. He told me he loved me, and didn't understand why I was so upset.
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    He said it wasn't real cheating because Clara is Al, so none of his messages matter. He told me, "at least it wasn't some real b." | told him he needed to end it with the Al (delete the app) or we're
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    done. He insisted I was overreacting. I packed up and left right then. I've been staying with my sister since, but friends and family have been bling up my phone. Most
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    of my friends are on my side, but some of them are calling me irrational for getting upset over Al. My FIL called me and I don't know why I picked up but he said I was a "nasty C Tuesday"
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    for getting angry at his son over "fiction." MIL agrees with me that he shouldn't have texted someone else, even if it was Al, but said I'm an as ole for opening his phone without his
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    consent, and that I could've been spared the pain of this whole ordeal if I "stayed in my lane." I'm just so confused and upset. I feel like an as ole, but I also feel
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    ridiculous, considering Clara *is* just Al. I don't know, I just want to know if I'm the ah le here, like so many people are saying.
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    WaryScientist If this is real, NTA - it might be Al on the AP's part, but your husband's feelings are clearly real, as he is unwilling to delete the app and would rather lose you, his real wife, for Clara. Also, the emotional distancing and hostility was very real.
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    AliCat_82 Yikes. Definitely NTA. Al is taking over his life like that? He NEEDS to delete it. For his own sanity
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    Potential_Leg3347 Doesn't matter if the other woman is real or not. In normal affairs, it's the emotional attachment that comes before most physical ones, and it is the worst. Your husband has cheated on you. It doesn't matter if it's a cardboard box he fell for, your emotional sanctity has been lost.
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    Armadillo_of_doom He needs a dang therapist and you need a new husband, NTA
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    wanderer866 NTA. Had a friend break up with a girl he was pretty serious with because of her Sims addiction. The Al is just a dating sim, but a game stops being a game when weird cheating behavior gets involved.
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    Your Wildest Dream69 Wow i had no idea something like that even exists, id ask the Al if she thinks he is cheating on you
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